Posts Tagged ‘support’

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Day 3 – Welcome to My World!

October 23, 2010

My hubby is #1

My Girls! Cara, Jessica and Cerena

Julia, Elizabeth and Ashlie - my Bridesmaids!

Patrick - a lifelong friend

Jesse & Jeni - SO FUN!

Molly and Michael - friends to the end

Group of lovelies - Taylor, Lisa, Erica, Jessica, Cara and Cerena

Jeni, Jill, Ashley, Dana, Stephanie & the Boss - my AMAZING work friends!

Day 01- A recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself
Day 02- The meaning behind your blog name
Day 03- A recent picture of you and your friends
Day 04- A habit that you wish you didn’t have
Day 05- A picture of somewhere you’ve been to
Day 06- Favorite super hero/fictional character and why
Day 07- A picture of someone/something that has the biggest impact on you
Day 08- Short term goals for this month and why
Day 09- Something you’re proud of in the past few days
Day 10- Songs you listen to when you are Happy, Sad, Bored, Hyped, Mad
Day 11- Another picture of you and your friends
Day 12- How you found out about WordPress and why you made one
Day 13- A letter to someone who has hurt you
Day 14- A picture of you and your family
Day 15- Put your iPod on shuffle: First 10 songs that play
Day 16- Another picture of yourself
Day 17- Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why
Day 18- Plans/dreams/goals you have
Day 19- Nicknames you have; why do you have them
Day 20- Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future
Day 21- A picture of something that makes you happy
Day 22- What makes you different from everyone else
Day 23- Something you crave for a lot
Day 24- A letter to your parents
Day 25- What I would find in your bag
Day 26- What you think about your friends
Day 27- Why are you doing this 30 day challenge
Day 28- A picture of you last year and now, how have you changed since then?
Day 29- In this past month, what have you learned
Day 30- Who are you?

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Day 2 – What is “Coach Melissa” All About?

October 21, 2010

My blog name is more of an idea, than a title.  My name is Melissa, so that part is obvious, but the “Coach” part may need a little more explanation.

Crazy, almost unbelievable things have happened to me in my lifetime.  I’ve had pretty traumatic experiences, but keeping my chin up and with the support of God and those around me, I have been able to learn and grow and move on.

To me a coach is someone who roots for you from the sidelines, provides tough love when you need it, and who always has your back.  A role model, a teacher, an inspiration, a friend.  They’re there to motivate and support, and brush you off when you fall.  Life coaches, t-ball coaches, Varsity football coaches… they all make a difference in people’s lives.  I aspire to BE that, and I hope if I use the term enough, I will become it.

Day 01- A recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself
Day 02- The meaning behind your blog name
Day 03- A recent picture of you and your friends
Day 04- A habit that you wish you didn’t have
Day 05- A picture of somewhere you’ve been to
Day 06- Favorite super hero/fictional character and why
Day 07- A picture of someone/something that has the biggest impact on you
Day 08- Short term goals for this month and why
Day 09- Something you’re proud of in the past few days
Day 10- Songs you listen to when you are Happy, Sad, Bored, Hyped, Mad
Day 11- Another picture of you and your friends
Day 12- How you found out about WordPress and why you made one
Day 13- A letter to someone who has hurt you
Day 14- A picture of you and your family
Day 15- Put your iPod on shuffle: First 10 songs that play
Day 16- Another picture of yourself
Day 17- Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why
Day 18- Plans/dreams/goals you have
Day 19- Nicknames you have; why do you have them
Day 20- Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future
Day 21- A picture of something that makes you happy
Day 22- What makes you different from everyone else
Day 23- Something you crave for a lot
Day 24- A letter to your parents
Day 25- What I would find in your bag
Day 26- What you think about your friends
Day 27- Why are you doing this 30 day challenge
Day 28- A picture of you last year and now, how have you changed since then?
Day 29- In this past month, what have you learned
Day 30- Who are you?

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My Wedding Ring Doesn’t Fit…

October 17, 2010

  …because it’s too big!!

One of my very first, noticeable accomplishments during my weight loss journey (part deux) was the feeling of my beautiful wedding ring becoming more and more loose.  Thankfully, I hadn’t gained too much between my wedding and when I started my diet/exercise program, so we’re talking just a few weeks into it when I noticed this change. 

A small, insignificant thing to some, but a huge deal to me!  It was like dropping a dress size or something! 

Of course, my reaction was priceless; “Oh my gosh, honey!!  LOOKLOOKLOOK!  It’s too big!  I could flick my hand & it might fly off!”  That last part was NOT true, by the way, but you get the picture.

This is one of those things I’m always talking about!

Small goals

Baby steps

Make a big deal out of these little things, and you’ll find yourself noticing more changes, more often.  How motivating to celebrate every bit of progress, big or small!

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Think Before You Speak

September 26, 2010

It’s the most discouraging thing to hear some of the things people say to you when you lose weight:

– “You’re too skinny.”  Oh really?  When I was fat, you didn’t seem concerned.  I never heard, “you’re too fat,” when THAT was a fact.

– “Melissa looks anorexic.”  I eat 5 times a day. Breakfast, snack, lunch, snack, dinner.  I’m not anorexic, so don’t say I look like it.

– “I think Melissa is bulimic.”  And your basis for this accusation would be?  My husband & coworkers see me eat every day and not throw up.

– “You look unhealthy.”  I visit my doctors WAY more than you do, and they’d tell me if I was unhealthy.  In fact, I’ve never been healthier.

– “I like girls with curves.”  I’m not your girl.  I still have curves, too, they’re just smaller and more toned than ever.

– “You’re a workout-aholic.”  Stop saying this, it doesn’t make any sense.  There’s no such thing as a workout-aholic.  I enjoy working out, it’s good for you and people should do it more.  I’m going to talk about it because I want to motivate others.

Most of all, I cannot stand when someone says ANY of these things and then follows it up with, BUT I SUPPORT YOU.  The problem with people saying these things is that it’s not actually out of concern.  No one is staging an intervention.  These words are mean, sabotaging and hurtful.  It is more than obvious that I am happier and healthier now than before.  Healthy Melissa looks very different from heavy Melissa & people don’t know how to process this new image.  Words become critical, oftentimes unintentionally.  I look different and all of a sudden, people become uneasy and aren’t sure how to approach me.

It is just as important for the people who currently say these things to read, as it is for anyone else who knows another person who has lost weight and may say these things.  It’s also going to be relatable for someone else who has lost a significant amount of weight, because I know they hear these things, too.

I want to educate people & hope they realize that what they say has a profound and possibly negative impact on the person on the receiving end.  These words are hurtful, especially when they hold no basis in reality.  If you want to be supportive, then think before you speak.

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Popping the Bubble

September 24, 2010

Recently, I’ve found myself trying to move outside of my comfort zone.  Trying new things and putting myself out there, harboring the risk of criticism and totally expecting it.  Starting a business that’s all about who you are, what you say and how you live is kind of terrifying.  I am trying to be an example to people!  I’m watching what I say, what I eat, who I’m talking to and networking with.  This is all to actually achieve the “bigger picture” I can see, but have yet to realize.

In addition to bearing my traumatic surgery story to the world wide web, I’ve also posted before and after weight loss pictures ONLINE, and, holy moly, now EVERYONE knows my weight!  This is all about courage.  I am actually about to record myself singing.  This is almost as traumatic as my surgery… ha.ha.

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Wildfire

September 21, 2010
When I first started using Twitter, the second I used the words “Turbo Jam” in a status update I was swarmed with Beachbody “have you ever thought of becoming a coach?” messages.  I would say, no no, I am happy to just know that my journey is special & I’ll let my weight loss speak for itself.  Unfortunately, it doesn’t speak for itself.  No one hears the stories you don’t tell.  No one besides your circle of friends and family have any idea what you have gone through to get to where you are!  For me, my doctors know, and people who I meet through my friends have heard of me, but they don’t know that in addition to having this traumatic surgery, I also overcame and lost 30 pounds afterwards.  And they certainly don’t know I was once 200 pounds!
 
There are too many people out there who need to hear these types of stories; Who are just waiting to be inspired!  They are looking for, if not someone to relate to, someone who they can look at and go, “if she did it with those odds, then I can do anything!”
 
It took me a while to realize that I could advocate not only for people who had a significant amount of weight to lose – because I could relate to that, but I could also advocate for people who have health issues.  From simple to traumatic.  It’s too easy to use health problems as an excuse to become lazy.   My back hurts, my knees hurt, I only have one leg, I’m on oxygen… wheel that dang oxygen out the door and take a walk!!  You can do anything!  Just be smart about it.
 
Beachbody has become my platform to tell people beyond my family and friends about my own incredible journey.  These people know my story already, but there’s an entire world who has no idea that it exists!  I cannot sit around with the knowledge that I have!  That is selfish!  Everyone has their own special, remarkable journey and everyone should share it with the world.  Every single person deserves to hear it and needs to use it fuel their own fire and ignite their own passions!
 
Walk your journey, but share it along the way.  You may never know the lives you’ll touch.
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Takes a Licking & Keeps on Ticking

September 19, 2010

There was never a time in my life when I was not gaining weight, though until about 7th grade, I would say my weight was fairly normal; then it started becoming a problem. I was overweight from 8th grade into my early 20s.

I was at my max weight of 200 pounds when my dad passed away in 2003 from an aortic aneurysm. That’s when I decided it was time to get healthy. I saw an infomercial for Turbo Jam and I thought it looked challenging but fun, and Chalene seemed so motivating. That’s just what I needed. It took about a year, but I lost 60 pounds with a combination of Turbo Jam and SlimFast.

Over the course of the next 5 years I stopped working out, stopped drinking SlimFast and gained back 30 pounds. I thought I was fine! Normal. Healthy.

On Labor Day 2008 I was jet skiing with friends and started having chest pains. I (very) reluctantly went to the emergency room, and wound up needing emergency open heart surgery. I’d had an aneurysm, just like my father, but blessedly found myself in exactly the right place at the right time. I now have a mechanical heart valve (it ticks with each heartbeat), 5 inches of prosthetic material replacing my ascending aorta, and I take an anticoagulant and 2 blood pressure meds, including a beta blocker, every day. My condition is a genetic connective tissue disorder, yet currently undiagnosed. Extensive testing will eventually reveal Marfan syndrome, Ehlers-Danlos or Loeys-Dietz.

That was 9 months ago. At 30lbs over what I now consider my ideal weight, I was not doing my heart any favors. Since my surgery, I was told that SlimFast was not an option because it counteracts the effectiveness of my medications. So while watching my calories and doing Turbo Jam again I have reached my goal weight! I am as healthy as I can be and I am so proud to be able to share my story. I am a work in progress! I do not have my ideal body yet, but I will continue using Beachbody programs and sharing my success with you. Needless to say, anything that can do for me TWICE what Beachbody did for me, I am happy to share! The ride has been beyond worth it.

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